Where I live, we are experiencing clear blue skies, mild warm days and low humidity. This beautiful weather makes being outside a joy and I often find myself walking around the yard in bare feet soaking up the sunshine.
This weather also inspires to me to take long walks, dig in the garden and start new projects much to the consternation of my family. (I can get a little zealous.) As with any change in the season, there is always an adjustment period where I look for a balance between work and rest and play.
The transition from one season to the next also reflects the transition inherent in growth, and to my mind, the underlining argument for allowing oneself to be vulnerable in relationship. Just like the tiny seed who sprouts its first tender shoot, our willingness to express and to show vulnerability causes growth.
While vulnerability means different things to different people, I dare say most folks get the willies at the mere thought of acting with vulnerability. And it is not hard to imagine why. Just google the word and look what comes up:
the quality or state of being exposed
to the possibility of being attacked or harmed,
either physically or emotionally.
Ooh! Sigh me up for that. Not!
And yet as a counselor, I often invite my clients to be vulnerable in relationships. I advocate vulnerability because I know from personal experience that my relationships grow when I am willing to try something new or to speak my truth. If I never risked potential emotional pain, then my relationships (and myself) would be stagnant and unfulfilling.
To grow, to move requires risk. Yes, sometimes you take a risk and do not get what you want or where you want. It sucks. It’s not fun and it can hurt – a little or a lot. Which is why it is so important to take care of yourself and to surround yourself with good friends. (Sometimes your risk is about making good friends.) Both are necessary for healing.
Healing your hurts so you can take the next risk is part of life. Take the time to heal and then risk being vulnerable again and again. Do not stop. Our world needs you to grow, to fully develop and share the gift that you are. So, plant your seeds and nurture their tender sprouts. Not all may live but the ones that do will bear fruit for years to come.
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